Monday, October 29, 2007
I got Carson bundled up today with big socks, shoes, hat, mittens and spent over an hour outside. His cheeks were red and his nose was running by the time we got home :)
Two weeks before I go to work:
Monday - Carson and I will go to the caregiver's for an hour in the morning. Kate says it's important for Carson to see me at the place where he will be spending his days, so it's not a scary place. Also, he needs to see me interacting with the caregiver so he knows that she is "safe".
Tuesday - Carson goes alone for 2 hours in the morning, I'll pick him up for his morning nap. It's important to establish early on that this house is for Carson, without mommy. If you spend any more time there with him, it will be that much harder when you leave.
Wednesday - same as Tuesday
Thursday and Friday - Carson goes in the morning + morning nap -I'll bring him home for lunch. Naps are a special time, so I'll be there to pick him up right after his nap. They are ultra sensitive when they wake up and it will be scary the first few times he wakes up and is greeted by a new person.
1 week before I go to work:
Monday - Carson goes in the morning and lunch and he takes his afternoon nap at home. Slowly add in more of his daily routine.
Tuesday and Wednesday- Carson goes in the morning, lunch and stays for his afternoon nap and I pick him up right afterwards
Thursday and Friday - Carson stays for the full day!
I have to go talk to our caregiver and run this schedule by her. It's important for her to know it's not because of HER but because of HIM. Kate says that normally the first week is pretty easy, it's new and fun. It's normally the second week where they start to figure out this is now part of their routine and that's when they may freak out (if they are going to, that is) so I really want to be at home for that second week (ie: not at work) so in case he really needs me, I'll be there. I wouldn't go if he was crying for a bit... he'd have to be in dire needs of me before I went over. He has to figure out that this is what's going to happen from now on. Ha, I say all this now - but I have NO idea how he's going to react when it happens. So far he's great with people he doesn't know... so I'm hoping it stays that way.
Sunday, October 28, 2007
I sat beside Shelley, who's husband (a good friend of Jeff's) passed away this June, and she has 3 kids: Declan (3), Makayla (2) and Finlay (7 mos). She has got to be the strongest, toughest, absolutely amazing woman I've ever met. I don't know how I would be surviving if I was in her position. I know you would have to, for the kids.... but really. She talks about how she juggles life, work, with her kids and it's amazing. Whenever I feel stressed, overworked, overtired, exhuasted, I am going to picture her and know that my life is easy.
Today we took a drive out to Kanata to look at houses and visit with Dwight and Lyne. Carson just sat with Dwight for a good 20 minutes (right in front of Jeff and I and didn't even make a move towards either of us) then he played with Mocha (their dog) and explored their house and loved Sienna's room the most. He didn't nap this afternoon because of the visit, but you wouldn't have even known it, he was as happy go lucky as he normally is. This week is super busy, filled with lots of trips to stores to return things, having Carrie, Rob and the kids over for dinner on Hallowe'en, a playdate, a swimming date, and a shopping date. It's 5 weeks until I go back to work and so many things to do!
Oh, and it's Carson's 1st birthday coming up. We were going to have a joint birthday with Ethan and Isabelle (their's is the day before) but apparently he needs his own birthday. Now the planning begins. It's not going to be a huge deal, probably do an "open house" type of invite because lots of people are anxious to see the little guy on his big day. I may even try to make a cake (I have never made a cake from scratch before! Anyonw has a really good simple cake recipe (with icing), send it my way!) The party will be on his actual birthday and I start work 2 days later...
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Update: I just talked to the doctor's office and she said it sounds like he's doing just fine - if he wasn't able to sleep or eat or had a fever, they would want to see him. But to offer more water (he drinks a ton of water, and I always offer it before a bottle), and if he has problems sleeping to just prop up his mattress a bit and if he's awake due to his cough I could give him the purple dimetapp. So I feel way better and we'll take it easy today - easy to do with the rain. The last few days we spent hours in the park and today he'll miss it cause of the rain. Boo.
Saturday, October 20, 2007
To say he enjoyed it would be an understatement. He chewed on that bad boy for a good half hour, he cried when I took it away and he ended up being a huge greaseball like Grampie Walker! He certainly put on a show for everyone too!
Jeff and I were off. I kept wanting to call to see how it was going, but everyone convinced me to wait until after he would be in bed. I just wanted to be reassured that he wasn't upset and being a nightmare! I finally called Carrie around 8:30, and yes, he was pretty sad for about 45 minutes. He'd be OK and playing with the kids, then start to look around for us, and we weren't there so he'd cry. Then he would be distracted again and be happy, then notice we still weren't there and be a little sad. But everyone was singing and playing with him, so he eventually gave in and decided it was fun there. He didn't really eat his dinner but happily munched on some cut up pear and some goldfish crackers. After hearing all this, my heart was a little sad knowing that he had been sad but then Kate convinced me how good it is for Carson to get exposure to different people, and this is his aunt and uncle and cousins who love him more than anything!
(god I wish I could crumple Kate into a little ball and carry her around with me at all times, she's the most fantastic caregiver in the world. We've been friends since Grade 7 and she's gone for her ECE and for a degree in child studies, worked at 4 different daycares and now is working with kindergartens and is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to raising kids and everything that comes out of her mouth makes absolute sense to me. I know all mothers have different thoughts on how to raise children and Kate and I are on the exact same page, every book she's ever recommended to me is brilliant!)
He went to bed without a hitch and slept through until 7 this morning. I of course, no matter how late we were out last night, couldn't sleep past 5 (been waking up so early for bootcamp for the past week) so finally around 7 I got dressed and was out the door, on my way to Tim's for coffee and timbits for the "babysitters" and at their door before 8. Carson was in the booster seat, happily eating some fruit, looking at Bailey (the dog) - he looked over and saw me. Kicked his feet and a huge smile for his mom, but then went back to looking at Bailey and singing while he ate. So yes he was happy to see me, but he was quite happy where he was too!
Which made me SO happy. I want Carson to be comfortable around other people, I don't want him to know only his mom and dad and to not want to be around others. I want him to want to learn new things, sleep in new places and be comfortable with change. We have a routine here at home, but if we stray from that routine I don't want him to be all out of whack and not able to deal. I love that I can let him go for a sleepover and not be a nervous wreck all night. I love knowing in my heart that if anything happened and I needed to drop Carson off any family member that he wouldn't scream for 24 hours until I came back. What kind of fun is that? I love that I am confident in myself as a mom to not feel like I'm abandoning him, or being a bad mother for wanting a night out. It has nothing to do with being away from him, and everything to do with being with my friends, my husband, adult conversation and lots of laughs. Above all, I'm LUCKY that we are surrounded with family who want to spend time with Carson. We wish all his grandparents and aunts/uncles/cousins lived here too though. Jeff and I were talking about looking around our neighbourhood for teenagers that babysit too - in the next year or so I think it would be great to have someone around that could come by for a few hours if Jeff and I wanted to get out. I'd feel most comfortable with someone in the area who had their parents nearby... just in case of emergencies. I was babysat as a child, I babysat when I was a teenager, so why the heck wouldn't I think it would be good enough for Carson?
He had a 3 hour nap this morning (I called Carrie and asked her is she drugged him) and is going onto hour 2 of his afternoon nap. I can't imagine how much he will get tired out when he can actually walk! I'm always happy when he sleeps ton, in my crazy little mind I think it has to do with how much fun/learning/exercise we get while he's awake!
Friday, October 19, 2007
Carson's had a bit of a cold this week and he sounded raspy and coughing lots yesterday but he's been in good humour and still sleeps through the night, so unless he takes a turn for the worse, he's still going. And I know he's in good hands!
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Anyways, like I said before, he's been going up the stairs for a couple of months now. The issue is always going down the stairs. Whenever he edges towards the stairs (and would start to go head first if I didn't try to stop him) I always say "We don't go down the stairs like that, we turn around and put our legs first, not our hands". But then I physically turn him around and help him down the stairs that way.
Tonight him and I were playing upstairs in the hallway and chasing each other from room to room. He quietly made his way towards the stairs and I said "Carson let's stay upstairs" and that's ALL I said. He looked at me and then he turned around and went down two stairs. On his own. Without me saying it. Without me physically doing it for him. I was in shock. I yelled to Jeff to come. It was the first thing that he's done that I've taught him! It was amazing.
Sure he drinks from his sippy cup, he has fantastic dexterity and picks things up, turns them over in his hands, gives kisses - but all of those just come naturally. I didn't have to really teach him any of it (ok, maybe the kisses part)... but this, for some reason it really just amazed me.
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Monday, October 15, 2007
We have one of the plastic extendable (not sure if that's a word or not) ones that are pressure mounted. Carson is pretty freaking strong and he shakes that gate like it's nobody's business. It's just a matter of time before it gives out. So we are looking for the gates that are hardware mounted. One of the women we interviewed for daycare got two really nice dark brown ones (to match the railings in her house) at Direct Buy. My brother is a member of Direct Buy so I think I'll ask him if he can get me some. She said to buy it elsewhere is 1 gate for $120 and at Direct Buy you can get 2 for $140! I've been looking on usedottawa, kijiji and craigslist (my regulat stomping grounds) but haven't really found what I am looking for yet. And time is of the essence.
Seeing as it's going to be somewhat nice today, we are going to go to the park, walk to the grocery store and maybe squeeze in a trip to Walmart to return a few things I bought last week before realizing I didn't really need them.
Sunday, October 14, 2007
I'm not a fan of Winnie the Pooh stuff (at ALL) but this jacket came with a pair of pants and was regulat $45 on sale for $7. I can never resist a sale! But really, doesn't he look like he's about 4 years older with the jacket and hat on?
Last night we went over to Mom and Ricky's for some dinner with the twins (who were having a sleepover) and Nadia, Sean and Sofia. It's so much fun having cousins the same age, and older then him. I find around the older kids, he already tries to do more things that he wouldn't try when he's by himself.
Friday, October 12, 2007
Carson. I plan on enjoying every last day him and I have together for the next month and a half. Now that the major things are out of the way, all I have to concentrate on is him and I. And doing as much as we can together.
It's the cutest thing ever.
Carson crawling upstairs is pretty cute too. He's been crawling up the stairs since he was 9 months old... I tell ya, we are in for a world of trouble with this little guy!
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Turns out it's a good thing my mother loves to talk. She's been going to the same place to get her hair cut for about 6 or 7 years. Sitting beside her regular hairdresser is this really cool young woman (who actually cut my hair a month after I had Carson) who my mom chats with. I'm not sure how it came up, but somehow she found out that this lady's sister has a little girl who goes to daycare to a woman in Riverside South who her sister absolutely LOVES! So my mom asked for the name/number and gave it to me, I called this morning, got an interview for 5 tonight and we knew as soon as we left that she's the one.
So yay. A new job and we found daycare all in one week. I feel to have this huge weight lifted from my shoulders....
Hanging out this morning, making his growling noise:
He LOVES his toast. When I ask him if he wants toast, he crawls to his highchair.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Tuesday, October 09, 2007
I still want to interview more people, I got a really good feeling from her, but what if there is someone better? I have a few calls in, and hopefully will talk to a few ladies tomorrow (wait, not tomorrow, tomorrow is INSANE) ... at least I'm not as stressed.
Heh - Carson is giggling now. He's been laughing and smiling for a while, but only if we did something to make him laugh. Now when we walk into his room after his nap he giggles. If we look at him funny he giggles. He pushes this funny ball around and giggles. He sees himself in the mirror and giggles. It's hard to explain, but it's something new, adorable, sweet and completely makes my heart warm and fuzzy.
Monday, October 08, 2007
Friday, October 05, 2007
I was talking to a friend this morning about what foods I'm feeding Carson, and I was thinking that it's so much easier to feed Carson now that I'm feeding him everything and anything. Well, no sweets or juice or anything like that, but all meats, veggies and bread/potatoes/rice. And because Jeff and I are always eating very healthy dinners, I have no doubts about blending up whatever we are eating and giving it to the little guy. He's getting his taste of all different types of foods and he's enjoying it. Sure, there are some he wants nothing to do with, but overall he's digging "real people" food. It's an easy way to keep eating healthy - I wouldn't dare try to blend some chicken fingers and fries :) And I'm lazy and don't want to have to cook two different meals.
Thursday, October 04, 2007
1/ She was young (mid 20's maybe). No daycare experience. She was a nanny for 11 months, but no ECE or daycare experience.
2/ A single mom of a 6 month old (and I was raised by a single mom so don't think I have anything against them) Her son's name? Carson (this had NOTHING to do with why we didn't go with her, just thought I should point it out. I haven't heard of any kids around his age with his same name)
3/ She was taking on 4 more kids. The oldest? 17 months. To me - that's ALOT. 5 kids under the age of 2??
4/ We asked where Carson would sleep. She said they would be sleeping in a room with a bed and two playpens. I'm sorry but I don't think 3 - 1year olds are going to sleep in the same room.
5/ She was charging MORE then the licensed daycare.
I came home and broke into tears. I just lost it. Not because the first interview wasn't the girl we decided to go with. More so because everything was just falling into place and this was the first stumbling block. I just came home and snuggled with Carson, was reading him a book and the tears started flowing. Maybe I was too confident thinking that I'm OK with this. But when I went out, and started to actually talk to people who potentially could be helping me raise my child, it freaked me out. I'll be OK tomorrow, I have 4 more interviews set up and I'm going to keep on making more. I've got the word out with quite a few people who are also asking around for me, so I know something will come up. I will just have this uneasy feeling in my stomach until I do.
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Her ad was the first one that really clicked with me. Healthy meals, lots of indoor and outdoor time and the name was "Little Adventures". Anyways, I know you can't "judge a book by it's cover" but I am really hoping to get a good feeling from her tomorrow. I thought I was prepared for this. I have a long list of questions, but now I'm trying to make sure I covered everything. I doubt I'll even ask all of them - if we get along I'm sure the conversation will flow and all my questions will be answered in our conversation. At least I'm hoping :)
I have 4 interviews scheduled in the next week and a half so I'll at least feel a little better, like there IS hope out there.
I'm looking forward to going back to work. For me. But I'm not looking forward to the part of leaving him with someone else. For the whole day. I do spend lots of ME time, but it's normally after he goes to bed. You become quite the pair, he's like my better half right now, he's attached at the hip and I like having him there. But I'm also ready to start my new role - of a working mother. I will wear the title with pride but will miss my little boy.
Monday, October 01, 2007
Oh yeah - he goes down slides now! It's pretty cute. I met a woman in the park today, and she gave me the name and number of this woman that she always sees in the park with the kids she looks after. The woman I met had originally started talking to her because in a year or so she'll be looking for care for her little guy, Rowan. She said this woman is fabulous with the kids, and always in the park. Which is fantastic. So she gave me her name and number, because I told her I was looking for care and I will be calling tonight. I've gotten a few leads, but I'm a bit picky of who I want looking after him so each lead so far has one or two things I'm not keen about, but won't get into it on here as I don't want to offend anyone!
Anyways, here are the pictures of my gorgeus little boy and what we've done today so far on his "birthday". Hugs and Kisses to Grammy and Grampy!